Updated: May 26, 2019
"What you want to do and what you can do, is limited only by what you can dream" --Mike Melville
When I first became a DreamBuilder™ Coach I went through the program and built my dream step-by-step. I consider this one of the most incredible experiences of my life. I remember vividly the first time I listened to Mary Morrissey’s meditation on creating a life you love living. Halfway through the meditation the tears began running down my cheeks because here was someone giving me permission to dream; something, as shared in my first blog, I had given up early in my life. Today, I’d like to share a small part of the DreamBuilding process with you.
There are ten steps to the DreamBuilding process. The first step is gaining clarity on your dream. I know this sounds fairly simple and straightforward; nevertheless, you might be surprised at how difficult this is for some people. I think that early on in our lives we are taught to stop dreaming. How many times did someone tell you to stop daydreaming? How many hours did you spend at a desk being asked to memorize and then regurgitate information you had no relationship to?
I want you to give your imagination permission to run wild. The goal is to begin creating a blueprint to follow. I like to use the example of building a house because I have actually built one. If you wanted to build a house you probably wouldn’t go out and buy a bunch of lumber and start nailing 2x4’s together willy-nilly. You might come up with an interesting piece of modern art; however, you probably wouldn’t end up with a house
The first step would be to make a series of decisions: how many rooms do you want, how many bathrooms, how big is the kitchen, do you need both a living room and a den? You might even begin to sketch out a rough plan for your house. Once you have the basics, you hire an architect to draw a blueprint, and then hire a contractor to build the house.
When I wrote my dream for the first time I realized I knew more about what I didn’t want, so I started there. I wrote down all the things I did not want in my life and then I turned each item on my list into the things I did want in my life. To help the process along, focus on the four main areas of life: Relationships, Health, Vocation, and Time and Money Freedom.
Give yourself permission to let your imagination soar. Remember when you were a child and you dreamed you could be anything? When I was very young, we had a swimming pool and dad used diatomaceous earth for filtration. He would dump the earth in the backyard and over time, this created hills of the stuff. I remember jumping from hill to hill and pretending I was Hercules. Young children try on dreams like we try on new clothing. This is your moment! Let your imagination soar. What do you want to be when you grow up?
There is an old saying about the wind not being favorable to the sailor with no destination in mind. If he doesn’t know where he is going, he can’t set the rudder or trim the sails. He doesn’t even know what stars to navigate by. Your dream is your destination, take some time and consider what a life you would love living actually looks like.